There’s a lot of hype going on about using costumes, and everyday household items like ‘imagination’ as high quality sex toys! But as hot as some people get for the idea of becoming the naughty schoolgirl or a buffed, bronzed fireman, there are just as many that are completely turned off by them! Today we explore both sides of the role-playing in sex issue, and discover how to get a shy partner randy for imaginative playtime!
Why do some people feel so uncomfortable about it?
Role playing is not immediately for everyone… and truthfully, costumes and accessories are not sex toys that will ever truly turn on some people. There are a variety of reasons that people don’t immediately take to the idea of role-playing with a partner, including:
- They feel silly ‘acting’ like somebody other than themselves
- They think they’ll be laughed at
- They don’t like the inherent power imbalances that some characters create (cops, teachers, etc)
- So, if your partner uses one of the above arguments not to become involved in role playing, should you just give up on your fantasies? Not necessarily!
How can I help my partner get hot and heavy for role playing?
This could be easier than you think! Here are some ideas…
Start with lingerie:
One of the reasons that girls love to shop so much is that each new outfit gives them a sense of a new identity… of becoming different to their boring old selves. These girls have an inbuilt affinity for the joys that role-playing brings… and you can capitalize on that by taking them lingerie shopping.
Much adult lingerie is designed as a halfway point between costumes and ordinary old lacy underwear. Make one or two comments while she’s wearing her new lingerie about how much she looks like (A hot French maid/A sexy nurse/A bondage diva), ‘re and tell her to (clean up after you, because you’re a dirty boy/Help you with a problem in your pants/Teach you a lesson).
Find out if she only objects to SOME characters:
Some girls might not like the idea of teacher-student role play because they have real-life memories of creepy teachers. Some think that schoolgirl fantasies have pedophilic overtones. Some don’t like the submissive overtones inherent in maid’s costumes. Discover exactly what she objects to in role playing and see if it can be worked around.
Make laughter part of the play:
So your lover starts laughing uncontrollably? Don’t give up, work it into the act! Don’t let the lapse of laughter ruin the entire adventure.
Use ordinary scenarios to start with:
Many couples like to pretend that they don’t know each other, and meet up in a pub before heading out to the car! Either one of you could be a hot stripper giving a teasing dance, or even a knight in shining armor rescuing the other party from something.
Make sure s/he comes:
If you finally get your partner to try role-playing, make sure they have the time of their life! Involve high end sex toys such as Lelo vibrators and other props as necessary to ensure they have a screamingly good time… and you’re well on your way to a future filled with imaginative play!